I keep up with Michael Hyatt’s blog pretty regularly. He’s full of great advice about life, leadership, software, and just about everything else. A couple days ago I was reading through some of the comments on his blog and was shocked. The post was about Evernote (an app I’m trying for the third time in the hopes of finally getting digitally organized), but people were randomly insulting him. They insulted his typing, challenged his motives, and some were just downright nasty. Of course, he handled them with grace.
My first response was anger. I was tempted to reply to the rude commenters and defend him, but that’s not my place. My second response? Comfort. I thought, “It’s not just me.” I’m amazed how often people use the most bizarre and arbitrary circumstances to attack others. Turns out, I’m not the only one who gets attacked.
It’s funny how much others’ struggles can reassure us.
I’m increasingly convinced that “it’s not just me” is one of the most comforting realizations we can come to in our lives, no matter the topic. In a little over a week, I’ll be leading a group of fantastic girls in a Beth Moore study on insecurity. We definitely need it. I wrote about insecurity a while back after coming to the “it’s not just me” conclusion. In response to that blog, I received numerous comments and text messages and emails from girls who were going through the same thing.
The Bible is filled with examples to comfort us in knowing it’s not just us. Whether our problem is anger or lust or depression or greed, we can look to the Bible and find others who have struggled with the same things. Some of them handled their situations in godly ways. Some of them not so much. Either way, they’re great examples.
The “it’s not just me” is another reason community is so important, especially in a church setting. I absolutely LOVE the small group we attend (we call them Gospel Communities because, well, that’s what they are). Not only are the other members fantastic, but it’s incredibly reassuring to be completely transparent about your struggles and have several other people chime in with, “Yeah, I deal with that too.”
Last night I spent an extended amount of time in a conversation with a beautiful friend in my Gospel Community about a major struggle in both of our lives. Because she empathized with some of what I was going through, she was able to speak directly into me and reassure me not only with godly advice, but with solid scriptural references to back it up.
Sometimes I get really selfish in my marriage. And it’s not just me. Sometimes I base my self-worth on others’ opinions of me. And it’s not just me. Sometimes I let all the little things get to me and allow that to affect my relationships with everyone around me. And it’s not just me. Sometimes I get angry at God for not handling situations the way I want him to handle them. And you know what? It’s not just me.
Consider this a PSA encouraging you to get involved in a small group community if you don’t already have one. It’s the most reassuring, encouraging, teaching, and comforting experiences I’ve ever known. I learn from the others in the group and I’d like to think they learn from me as well.
What are some situations about which you’ve been comforted by “it’s not just me”? Are you involved in a church community/small group? What’s the best part of that community?